Aug 15, 2018
Joy Acaso LCSW's Top Parenting 101 tips (see more at HardyMom.com)
- Parents need to take care of themselves so they don't feel overwhelmed.
- Rules and relationships have to go hand in hand.
- If we put everything into our family but don't take care of ourselves, the guilt comes out, then we start to parent out of hurt, and fear, and anger which isn't good at all.
- If you're parenting alone and hitting your breaking point, the first thing to do is slow down and take 10 minutes to figure out a game plan.
- You might need to reach out to the community, a friend, or a professional to get parenting help if you're in a crisis.
- Don't discipline out of anger.
- When we discipline, we don't only want to teach them that what they did was wrong, but also the right way.
- Your children are growing up, and some of their views will be different from you, and that's ok.
- Keeping an open dialogue is very important.
- Remember that they're an expert on what they're listening to or watching. Ask them to explain them to you. Acknowledge that you understand they know more about some things.
- 0-9 are critical years, and kids are the most moldable. Self-esteem is stable, healthy, and at its height at this age.
- At the age of 9, self-esteem drops.
- Starting at 9, we need to adjust how we talk to and relate to our kids. We shouldn't wait until they're teens to adjust the way we parent.
Quotes from Joy Acaso:
"Don't be so scared of the new or different thing...we need to walk
alongside our children. Our voice needs to be heard by our
children."
"Making sure I please mom and dad, is at the back of every kids
head, at every age."
"They - our children - want material things but...they also... expect: warmth, approval, and acceptance from their parents."
"The motivated mom knows the power in her words, her thoughts, and her habits."
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